Building family through surrogacy gives intended parents the opportunity to have a new life. There are some common tips for making sure intended parents build a healthy relationship with surrogate mother based on mutual respect. They are trust, communication, appropriate boundaries, and flexibility.

Trust: This is the foundation of the relationship. This is not blind trust but surrogates want to feel that intended parents trust them and that you know that your baby is in good hands.

Communications: Being able to communicate with each other about your relationship and about the pregnancy will help surrogate feel that intended parents really care. Explore this during the matching personality compatibility and establish clear communication expectations and needs of both parties. Intended parents may ask your surrogate how much and what kind of communication she wants. It is also important for intended parents to be clear about how much communication you want. The best way to keep open lines of communication with your surrogate is to be interested in her and her life, not only about the pregnancy.

Boundaries: Be careful not to make promises that you cannot keep. Intended parents sometimes make the mistake of ‘falling in love at first sight’ and in the honeymoon phase, you may reveal things or say things that you might regret so take it slow, be warm, authentic and set good boundaries.

Flexibility: Remember that the surrogate mother probably has a very full life outside of the surrogacy and although your journey to parenthood may be first and foremost on your mind, she also has to think about her kids, her partner, her job, etc. and the surrogacy may not always be first in line for her attention. So, be flexible in your expectation of her.

Interested in learning more about surrogacy at Hellobaby Surrogacy? Check out our parents page for information about becoming a parent through surrogacy or our surrogate page to learn about becoming a surrogate! You can also follow along on our Facebook and Twitter as we share updates, resources, and client stories daily!

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